What's "normal" and what's not when it comes to human behavior, sexuality and relationships?

 

Researchers who solicited responses to an online survey of almost 100,000 people from around the world, including 23,000 in the USA, get at that question and more than 1,000 others in a new book called The Normal Bar, out Feb. 5.

 

Among their findings, based on responses from individuals 18 and older who are in relationships (both heterosexual and same-sex):

 

-- 40% say they have sex three to four times a week.
-- 48% of men and 28% of women report having fallen in love at first sight.
-- 43% of men and 33% of women say they are keeping a major secret from their partner.

 

"This 'normal' is different from most normals," says co-author Pepper Schwartz, a sociologist at the University of Washington in Seattle. "Most normals look at the average - if a big clump of people do it, they call it 'normal.'